Where'd They Hear That?

Years ago my best friend and I were shopping in Target. My 2-1/2-year-old son was sitting in the seat of the cart while her 3-year-old daughter stood, somewhat Titanic style at the front of the cart.  

At one point we became blocked by a woman and her cart. We waited a few minutes then the 3-year-old hollered out, “COME ON LADY!  MOVE IT!”

My friend was mortified and immediately started to apologize.

Once things settled I asked my friend, “How did she know to say that? Where has she heard it before?”  

My friend kind of sighed and rolled her eyes at herself and said, “You know when you’re driving and a car is going too slow or blocking traffic and in the privacy of your car you say, ‘come on lady, move it’?”

Children are paying attention.

What messages are you sending to children when it comes to food, eating, body size, body respect, body shaming, etc?  

My granddaughter came home from school last week crying. Apparently, she had a disagreement with her friend and in turn, was body shamed. 

These girls are 8 years old. 

As I heard about this other little girl's words the same questions came up, “How did she know to say that? Where has she heard it before?”

Many of my clients tell me “I don’t want my daughter growing up with the same level of body hatred I have.” Yet young girls are still at risk.

The best thing to do for ourselves, our daughters and our granddaughters is stop hating our bodies. That doesn’t mean you have to love it or even like it. Simply start by treating it, feeding it, and talking about it with respect.  

When we think about the lengths we’re willing to go to for the wellbeing of our children this seems like it's at least worth a try right? 

If you are confused, unsure, or need guidance, send me an email and set up a consult. I can help you.